By far, one of the coolest lessons my grandparents ever taught me in the introductions to success in whatever I chose to do was in saying: Everyone’s level of success is going to look different, because it has to. Every person is born as an individual, with different gifts, talents, and repertoires of greatness. This…

Growing up, you will discover through my published works, that I had a bit of a problem with sharing. My unwillingness to share wasn’t widespread. It was limited to not wanting to share my grandmother and my stuff with anyone. My grandparent’s rules taught me any number of lessons to deal with life in the…

Let’s make the decision to agree to agree to participate in a little exercise to see if the students are right in their claims that most adults can’t be trusted, or if there are several unmentioned parents, teachers (and district policies), or children equally responsible for some of the dysfunction seen or reported in the…

WHAT IS PRO ME IS NOT ANTI YOU™ ? (Offered in the Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™!Compendium Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™! in absolute contrast with hatred, racism, discrimination, or inequality is a life-long drive to insure inherent equality for every person by helping each person understand that just because someone is excelling…

My great-grandfather Arie L. Felder was a slave, and the absolute coolest man in the whole world. Granddaddy had this rhythm in his voice that made everyone want to hear anything he had to say. Granddaddy Arie, as we called him, believed each person’s character should dictate how they treated themselves and how they were…

In the midst of all the rules I had to live by because my grandmother was determined that I not live as a slave or sharecropper, and without the benefit of a degree immediately after high school because I struggled with being in a controlled environment after three years of physical abuse at the hand…

Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™! as A Platform to Model Your Repertoires of Greatness   One of the tools my grandparents gave me to assure I knew who I was and who I had every right to become, in the midst of any difficulty experienced as a result of racism was to know without…

The Need to Move Past the Anger to Get to Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™!   As many 21st century children are taken into consideration, there are countless children throughout the world without the benefit or pre-knowledge of how to form positive relationships to get through the uncomfortable portions of their lives or in…

Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™! Exist Because Black Play Still Has to Look Differently I remember when I was about eight years old some kids were outside dancing and just having what appeared to be a good time. I wanted to go outside and dance with them, but I could not. My grandmother said,…

Connecting the Past to the Need for Pro ME is Not Anti YOU™! As a little girl, I struggled to understand the logic for the circumstances making up my reality. Racism wasn’t a detached reality with vile and mean people. Racism, for me, was making attempts to change my very character. At times I tried…